Have you ever ‘cum’ or burst your load just when the fun is just starting? Trust me bro, most of us have experienced it at some point. Research shows that 30% of men experience this worldwide. If it happens once in a while, that’s forgivable, but if it’s recurrent leaving you embarrassed and your partner unsatisfied, then pay close attention to this article. Although there is no stipulated time frame or globally recommended ‘cum time’ but if you cum in less than 5 minutes, then there’s a problem. Most ladies take longer than 5 mins to reach orgasm and if you cum too fast, here are some of the disadvantages:
- It can down your confidence as a man.
- Your partner will be unsatisfied and the possibilities of her cheating on you increases.
- You can’t have an expressive sexual life as you can’t stay long enough to do different styles.
- It affects your ability to truly bond with your woman.
- Even if you provide her with everything and fail in that aspect, you’re most likely not to secure her undiluted respect and undying love.
So, lasting long in bed is not negotiable if you want a fulfilling sex life. You must always come with your A-game, you fuck her like it’s the first time, you fuck her like it’s the last time. You fuck her for her and do it for you as well. Yes, I know sex isn’t just about the penetration or just reaching orgasm (that’s what porn makes it look like), but a well-fucked woman is a happy woman and a happy woman will swim the Nile and climb Everest for you. Win-win, lol.
In a bid to boost sexual performance, and show the woman who’s the boss, many guys take different sexual stimulants and herbal concoctions which usually have side effects like headache, increased blood pressure, kidney stone disease, etc. Besides, this is not a sustainable way to enjoy sex, and trust me you don’t want to get used to it, if you do a tablet today, at some point, you’ll need 2 or 3 to get you going. But here’s the good news before you write yourself off as a sexual failure, you can practice some techniques that I’m about to share with you, they’re easy to do, sustainable, and gives absolutely no side effects. It’s all in the use of your body and mind. Sexual activity is 80% mind and 20% physical. If you make good use of your mind, then you can become a sexual-superman, literally, lol. Let’s go!
1. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER
Especially if you’re in the talking stage and yet to have sex with her. One of the main causes of premature ejaculation is performance anxiety. The anxiety to prove yourself. However, the talk is not to discuss your fears or anxiety, but to learn her sexual preference. Ask questions about what turns her on, which position makes her cum, what’s her G-spot, and so on. This will guide you when you get down, to concentrate on what counts, and even if you cum early, both of you will climax at about the same time.
2. KNOW YOUR POINT-OF-NO-RETURN POSITION
We all have different things that turn us on and sensitive sexual positions that hasten our ejaculation. So, if you know doggy style is what gets you to that point, save it for last. Starting with such a position is a recipe for cum disaster.
KEGEL OR LOWER PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISE
Controlling your cum is like controlling or holding your urine. The muscles involved in that activity are the lower pelvic muscles, located in the region where your scrotum connects with your anus. You can strengthen these muscles and control your ejaculation reflexes by tightening the muscles (like you do when you’re urinating). You can perform this exercise by lying or sitting in a comfortable position, tighten the muscle for like 5 seconds, release it and rest for 5 seconds, then tighten it again. Repeat this 10 times for one session and do it 3 times daily.
4. PERINEUM CHOKE HOLD
The perineum is the region between the balls and the anus, more like the external part of the kegel exercise we talked about. when you’re performing styles like missionary, you can use one hand (your index finger and your thumb) to hold the muscle. This serves the double purpose of distracting you from the sexual activity as well as blocks the flow of ejaculation. The only downside is it doesn’t work with all positions as it won’t be comfortable to do.
5. USE A CONDOM
Condoms are not just for protective purposes, but also help to reduce the sensitivity of the penis, thereby lowering the onset of ejaculation.
6. THE COUNTING TECHNIQUE
Like I said earlier, delaying cum is more of a mind thing and the better you can use your mind (to distract it from the sex) while getting down, the better. Penetration is about strokes, and the counting technique is about counting your strokes. Set a target number of strokes in your mind (I usually set 100 for myself), then start counting down from 1-100 in your mind. This takes your mind off the sex and focuses it on the stroke counts (one stroke is a count), and when you get to 100, you start all over again. Done right, most ladies will be screaming before you hit another 100 and may even cum in the process. This is a very effective technique especially if you want to go fast and rough.
7. BREATHE
Taking deep breaths is an underrated practice when having sex, most guys don’t even know about it. When approaching your point-of-no-return, take a very deep breath, if one doesn’t do it, do two, and so on. You don’t have to stop what you’re doing, just do it on the go. It shuts down the ejaculation reflexes and reduces your anxiety by oxygenating the blood and sending more blood to the penis muscles to keep it standing.
8. THE STOP AND START TECHNIQUE
This is the most common technique many guys do. It works by temporarily stopping penetration when you’re getting the sensation to ejaculate, then start again when the feeling goes away. This is effective for sensual sex, you can use that short break to whisper in her ears, say erotic shit, suck her boobs, caress her, etc, you take your pick, lol. The downside to this is, what if the time you stop is when she’s about to orgasm? You just ruined the moment by stopping and now you have to start all over again.
9. EAT
You need the energy. Sex is an energy-intensive task, and being well-fed before it increases your chances of lasting longer. You also eat not just for energy but for nutrients, eat foods rich in zinc, potassium, and magnesium, like vegetables, bananas, legumes, and nuts. A research carried out in 2009 showed that testosterone levels increased in rats after given zinc supplements. If you can’t get enough of these essential nutrients from food items, you can do that by taking supplements to boost your immunity and testosterone levels.
LET’S CUM TO THE END OF THIS ARTICLE
It’s not news that sex is the glue that holds many relationships together, relationships have been destroyed, homes have broken because of it. I know a woman can leave you for different reasons, but don’t make sex one of it. I also admit we have different sexual energy, but nobody brought it from heaven, it’s constant practice and a will to be good in bed that gets you there. Sometimes, it’s one of the techniques I mentioned that makes you last longer, and sometimes it’s a combination of all. Practice and find their application and the one that works for you. God no go shame us o (as we say in Nigeria, lol), but we shouldn’t shame ourselves either by not doing the needful.
If you try all these techniques and still doesn’t work, then it’s time to see a doctor or a sexual therapist. There may be underlying medical or psychological conditions that need to be addressed. I wish you a wholesome and fulfilling sex life bruh. Go fuck some shit up!
I hope this article achieved what I intended, to inform and educate, I’m sure a friend of yours will find it useful too, please hit the share button and help brothers all around the world and if you have other techniques that work too, please drop it in the comment box.
Thank you.
Olowe Segun
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